From hotel balconies to botanical gardens, I have performed marriage ceremonies in every imaginable location throughout Greater Melbourne since 2011. The one thing they have in common, is that they are all different (well…you know…except for the legally binding parts).
There’s no discrimination here! Couples from across the LGBTIQ spectrum are welcome with open arms! Please note for all below examples of mandatory words, apply the appropriate pronouns to your ceremony.
From start to finish this is my process as a marriage celebrant;
In the beginning…
Once you get in touch with me via my email, we’ll catch up for a meet and greet (free of charge) to get a feel whether I’m the celebrant for you.
You like me!
If I get the big tick of approval, then I’ll get you to fill out and send me your Notice Of Intent To Marry form (NOIM), which needs to be done at the very latest a month and a day before the big day.
I’ll also need to have a peaky boo at your I.D. and if relevant, your divorce papers or death certificates related to your previous spouse.
If you have any queries or special circumstances requiring a shortening of time to less than a month and a day, please contact me (the sooner the better!)
Start of the big dance!
The are many ways to begin. There’s the traditional groom waits at the end of the aisle with his groomsmen and the father of the bride walks her down the aisle. But there are no rules. Some couples walk down together. Some get walked down separately by their parents. It’s your show, choreograph to your taste.
I’ve had weddings where the bride and groom walk down the aisle together holding hands with no bridal party. The couples dog have a basket of rose petals strapped to his head which fell out as he ran to his owners down the aisle. Any imaginable loved one related or not walk both the bride and/or groom down the aisle. I tend to find the more others are included in the big day, the better.
Option 1 – Storytime
Once you’re both at the end of the aisle, I’ll welcome everyone to the ceremony. Here I can then either go into your story or convey a personal message from you as a couple to your friends and family. This latter option is typically thanking them for their love and support through thick and thin and for being there on your big day.
After this, I’ll announce we’re commencing the legally binding part of the ceremony, followed by…
‘I am duly authorised by law to solemnise marriages according to law.’
‘Before you are joined in marriage in my presence and in the presence of these witnesses, I am to remind you of the solemn and binding nature of the relationship into which you are now about to enter.’
‘Marriage, according to law in Australia, is the union of two people to the exclusion of all others, voluntarily entered into for life.’
You can be creative and say as much as you like in your vows. However they’ll need to include words to the effect of…
‘I, (your name), call on the people here
To witness that I take you,
(bride/groom name), to be my wife/groom’
After you have said these magical words, traditionally you then have free rein to say your personal vows.
Then it’s the tearjerker in the movie scene where you get to say ‘I do’ whilst slipping an impressive ring onto your loved ones finger.
There’s a bit of flexibility with how I word the question which we what I ask but it’ll be something along the lines of…
‘(Groom/bride name), do you take (bride/groom name) to be your lawfully wedded wife/husband? Will you love, comfort, honour and respect her/him? Do you promise to share all life has to offer, your hopes and dreams, your achievements and disappointments with her/him from this day forward?’
(Bride/Groom): ‘I do!’
We then need to get your paperwork signed which requires the bride, groom and two adult witnesses. It’s a great opportunity to include two loved ones who aren’t going to be doing speeches at the reception.
It’s best to have about 6 minutes of music to play whilst you’re away putting pen to paper. Some couples use a live band, other the DJ for the reception, a guest or I can happily hit play for you.
You’ve made it! This is it! We walk back to the end of the aisle, I announce you as an officially married couple, the crowd go nuts and you walk back down the aisle! I then give direction to the guests as to what happens next (i.e. ‘please kill 5 hours of time whilst the couple are having photos taken’…’please go to X for the reception’).
We Did It!
If this sounds like the type of ceremony you were dreaming of, please shoot me and email, text or give me a call.
Phone: 0468 999 155
Prices – Available on request